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Navigating Mental Health, Loss, and Survival in America Today

We are living in an era of profound overwhelmedness. Behind the closed doors of our neighborhoods, people are quietly carrying immense burdens. We are seeing friends navigate painful divorces, neighbors losing businesses they poured their hearts into, and everyday Americans simply losing touch with the joy of living because they are entirely focused on just surviving.

Depression is a very real, very present issue in our communities. The compounded grief of personal loss, economic instability, and a deeply divided political climate has left many feeling isolated and exhausted. It is time we talk about it openly, look at the facts, and most importantly, share the resources that can save lives.

The Real Toll of Economic and Political Stress
The stress we are feeling is not just in our heads—it is a documented, national crisis. Financial insecurity and political division are fundamentally altering our mental well-being.

In the American Psychological Association’s (APA) 2024 Stress in America survey, 77% of adults reported the future of our nation as a significant source of stress.

The economy is the second most common stressor, affecting 73% of adults.
Day-to-day survival is becoming harder, with 65% of adults citing housing costs as a significant driver of anxiety.

Sadly, the very financial pressure causing this distress is also a barrier to healing, as 60% of people have avoided seeking mental health support specifically because of the cost.

When we talk about the “economy,” we aren’t just talking about numbers on a screen; we are talking about the loss of livelihoods, the strain on marriages, and the deep anxiety of not knowing how to pay for basic necessities. This chronic stress keeps our bodies in a constant state of fight-or-flight, eventually leading to severe anxiety and depression.

A Silent Epidemic: Understanding the Suicide Crisis
When the weight of these losses—whether it is a business, a marriage, or a sense of hope—becomes too much, the consequences can be devastating. We must face the reality of the suicide crisis in our country so that we can actively prevent it.
Suicide is a leading cause of death in the United States, resulting in over 49,000 deaths in 2023 alone.

Overall, suicide rates have increased by about 31% from 2003 through 2023.
These numbers represent mothers, fathers, siblings, and friends. They represent people who felt they had run out of options. But there are options, and there is a massive network of support waiting to catch those who are falling.

Hope and Help: Suicide Prevention and Resources
If you are reading this and feeling like the walls are closing in, please know that you are not alone, and your life is incredibly valuable. Reaching out for help is the bravest thing you can do.

In July 2022, the federal government launched the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. This service provides 24/7, free, and confidential support for people in distress, as well as prevention and crisis resources.

You can call, text, or chat 988 from anywhere in the country to be connected with a trained crisis counselor.

Between July 2022 and September 2025, about 19.1 million calls, texts, and chats were routed to these crisis centers.

That number tells us something vital: Millions of Americans are asking for help, and they are receiving it. You do not have to carry this weight alone.

Let’s Check on Each Other

We cannot always fix the economy or change the political climate overnight, but we can change the environment in our own circles. Check on your strong friends. Check on the friend who just closed their business. Check on the family member going through a divorce.

Grace, compassion, and a listening ear can be the lifeline someone desperately needs today.

Sources and Documentation
For further reading and to verify the statistics shared in this post, please refer to the following official reports:

American Psychological Association (APA): Stress in America 2024: A nation in political turmoil. This report details the significant stressors impacting Americans, including the economy and the political climate. (Available at: https://www.apa.org/pubs/reports/stress-in-america/2024)

U.S. Government Accountability Office (GAO): Suicide Prevention: Capacity and Federal Assessment of the 988 Lifeline (July 2026). This report documents the tragic rise in suicide rates to over 49,000 in 2023, alongside the utilization metrics for the 988 Lifeline. (Available at: https://www.gao.gov/products/gao-26-108114)

LifeStance Health Research: Financial Stress, Anxiety, and Depression (July 2026). This details the psychological load of financial distress and the barriers to affordable mental health care. (Available at: https://lifestance.com/blog/financial-stress-anxiety-depression/)

To my family and friends,
Recent events have really put things into perspective for me, reminding me just how much we all rely on one another. Life can be heavy right now, and so many of us are carrying things we don’t always talk about.

I just want to remind everyone: we got you. We are here for each other. Let’s make a promise to get back to taking care of one another, checking in, and making sure nobody has to walk through hard times alone.

❤️Love you all, just pick up phone and call someone, we are stronger together~

“We are stronger together”

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My 50th BIRTHDAY wish…..

​For my 50th BIRTHDAY – Sept 18th:

My birthday wish is that YOU, EACH & every one of you, do 5 good deed’s for me~ 

YEP this is what I want!!!

Rules: Do it with love – no return…. like helping our elderly… mow, rake… visit! 

Do it just because YOU can~ 

Anything for the better good of OUR EARTH~

Mother Nature is teaching us how HUMANKIND, REGARDLESS OF RACE/BELIEFS CAN come together AS ONE, STAND AS ONE & work together AS ONE for PRESERVATION of our race~ As we see the devastation here on USA soil – destruction  is happening across the world….. instead of hate, discord…war, we need to remember these hard times and the good we can do working together~ 

My heart is heavy as I watch tv today… As a history buff I have researched many storms, sicknesses & wars thru the years… and my conclusion is we keep repeating our mistake… over & over again! Time to start focusing on our one true solid proof of our life = what created us…. for dust we came & dust we will become… Mother Nature needs all our help…. we are the ones destroying this planet! 

If a planet could be pissed…. I’d say our’s is!!!!

What one THING could you do, change, help with or fix to make a better world????

As I am turning 50…. 

I am reflecting on my years…

Did I do enough? 

I know I will… 

FROM here…. on out~


Those that steal, kill or hurt in anyway… remember…. it is your soul that lives with the burden…. you will pay in one form or another for your action… it will haunt your mind forever… love is the one true choice…. find peace, try being the better person… we alone chose our action, we alone have to live with those choices~ 

TRUST me when I say….. you never forget~ 

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May 3, 1779 – Abraham Kellogg to James Chogam – 70 acres known as Ragged Mountain/Barkhamsted Lighthouse Village

Please forward this to any family members that you think would like to go!

Click here to go to: Facebook EVENT for Barkhamsted Lighthouse Reunion 2015

We are but a few months away and time to lock down your campsites (very few are left) or get your hotel accommodations – it will be the 4th of July weekend and many are filling up~

For all the locals that will be joining us we are in need of grills (A LOT) I will be providing hotdog’s and hamburgers (we are doing the whole deal – chilli, cheese, and all the fixings for hamburgers & hotdogs) I will be providing all plates, napkins, silverware – but everyone will be responsible for their own drinks (NO ALCOHOL is allowed) so many allergies and unsure what to have to please everyone’s preference – bring a cooler with drinks for your group~

I also am asking for a dish of anything to share – it will make for a variety of food and if all brings 1 dish we should have enough to feed the crowd expected~ (believe we are gonna have a HUGE crowd so I am needing help with volunteers in many areas)

I am gonna need cooks, clean up crews and security for the crowd and to make sure that it runs smoothly – I will be getting with the local police also~

Parking is going to be a issue for our Saturday event – Parade route will make parking difficult – I will have to figure out where we are gonna put everyone and how we are gonna get everyone to the area – (It is a State Park – they charge for parking – and narrow roads around the area) we have some parking at the Historical Society – we will need to get this all arranged – please GROUP UP for the eventbring as few vehicles as you can~

I will be in the area on Monday so will be there the whole week prior to the event – I will need contact numbers and such for locals and those volunteering~

So excited!!! Can’t wait! Looking forward to meeting all of you! REMEMBER ALL are welcome to join us for our reunion – it is open to anyone wanting to join in on bringing the the Barkhamsted Lighthouse/Chagum family together since the 1820’s (when Mary/Molly Chagum died)

ALMOST 200 years later (195 years ago)

It was on May 03, 1779 that James Chagum PURCHASED 70 acres from Abraham Kellogg

Which is known now as the Ragged Mountain Land & home of our Barkhamsted Lighthouse Village

1779 March 3  Abraham Kellogg to James Chughom purchase of Ragged Mountian

May 3, 1779Abraham Kellogg to James Chogam
70 Acres Volume: 1  Pages: 205 & 206
To all peoples to whom these Presents Shall Come – Greeting
Know ye that I Abraham Kellog of New Hartford in the County of Litchfield and State of Connecticut for the Consideration of twenty one Pounds Lawful money Recieved to my full Satisfaction of James Chogam of New Hartford in the County and State afore said Do Give Grant Bargain Sell and Confirm unto the Said James Chogan and his heirs forever a Certain Piece of Land Lying in the town of Berkhamsted in said County Butted and Bounded as ___ (viz) East and west on Highways North on Nathll Gillet ___ South on James Mc______ Land Lyeth at the place Called Ragged Mountain and Contains Seventy acres to have and the above Granted and Bargained Premisses with ___ appurtenance there of unto him the Said James and his heirs and assigns for his and their own proper use and Behoof and also I the said ___Do for my self and my heirs Excutors and administrators ___ with the said James and his heirs Executors and administrators ___ with the said James and his heirs and assigns that it and until Ensealing of this Presence I was well seized of the premisses and Indefeasible Estate in fee- Simple and have good rights to have and sell the same in manner and form as is above written that the same is free of all Incumebrances whatsoever & further I the said Abraham Do by these Presents Bind my self and my heirs forever to warrant and Defend the above Granded and Bargained Premises to him the said James and his heirs assigns ___ Claims and Demands whatsoever in Witness where of I have hereunto my hand and seal the 3 day of March in the year of our Lord 1779
Signed, Sealed and Delivered in Presence of
Zebulon Merrill                                               Abram Kellogg (Seal)
Hannah Merrill
Litchfield County of New Hartford March 3, 1779
Personally appeared Abram Kellog Signer and Sealer of the foregoing Instrument and acknowledged the Same to be his free act and Deed Before me,
Zebulon Merrill Just. Peace
The foregoing Deed was Given in for Record June 22, 1785 and Recorded by me John Crane Town Register

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My Uncle Russ Allen’s DNA results are coming in~

View all Coni’s family DNA test’s: Click Here

Note from Coni: I am also waiting on test from https://ancestrybydna.com/  (for me)

4. Russ Allen’s DNA Results (My Father’s Brother)
Note: Waiting on several results
DNA test done by: Family Tree DNA
Kit #: 366700
Haplogroup:  (yDNA): Click Here – awaiting results
Explanation of  Russ Allen’s DNA Result: Click Here – awaiting results
More info can be found at: Click Here – awaiting results

Results as of 11/7/14Y-DNA – Standard Y-STR Values
PANEL 1 (1-12) – Awaiting Lab Results
PANEL 2 (13-25) – Awaiting Lab Results
PANEL 3 (26-37) – Awaiting Lab Results
PANEL 4 (38-47)
Marker:  DYS531 DYS578  DYF395S1 DYS590 DYS537 DYS641 DYS472
Value:        11             9            15-16                8            10              10            8         
                 DYF406S1  DYS511 
                      10              10
PANEL 4 (48-60) – Awaiting Lab Results
PANEL 4 (61-67)
Marker:  DYS617    DYS568    DYS487    DYS572    DYS640    DYS492    DYS565
Value:              13             11                 13                  11             11               12              12
PANEL 5 (68-75) – Awaiting Lab Results
PANEL 5 (76-85) – Awaiting Lab Results
PANEL 5 (86-93) – Awaiting Lab Results
PANEL 5 (94-102) – Awaiting Lab Results
PANEL 5 (103-111) – Awaiting Lab Results

DNA Projects Russ Allen is in:
1. TDNA ALLEN (R) Patrilineage Project  – Administrator: John Robb